"We get the love we think we deserve." This line came from the book/movie The Perks of Being a Wallflower. I couldn’t agree more with this. For one, I’ve always been a firm believer that we get what we deserve in life. We draw the paths that get us to where we are. We create actions and visions that help us achieve what we want in life. As cliche as this may sound, we are the captain of our own ship. And this applies to love, respect, and trust as well. Respect begets respect. Trust must be done mutually. As to love, it will also be reciprocated, as long it’s given sincerely and whole-heartedly.
We all know that life will never be all rosy and smooth sailing. As we travel along the paths that we choose to take, we will meet different kinds of people. There will be an inspiring lot that will motivate us to become better version of ourselves. On the downside, we will meet people who will challenge us negatively. These people will shake the self-assurance that we have. Some will even go in a different kind of low and try to step on us, belittle us, and attack us on whatever way imaginable.
Life as such is but normal. Meeting these people - both those who become our friends and foes - come into our lives for a reason. We are then expected to make the most out of these experiences.
There is no disguise on the purpose of meeting a great support system in the form of our friends. Are we to question why we become friends with our friends? And what will become of us if we become friends with our friends?
Yet various questions prevail when meet the foes, when the “challenging” people come into the picture. What do we make of the situation where we encounter these people? How should these people affect our lives? What’s the purpose of knowing these people?
I always consider my foes or people I’m not particularly fond of as people who help boost my self-assurance and authenticity. The more that people try to belittle me or step on my toe, the more I become self-secure. I guess that’s the importance of loving yourself and of being sure of your capabilities, no one can bring you down no matter how hard they try.
At the end of the day, it’s knowing that you’re doing the right thing and knowing that you never shortchanged anyone by becoming your true self and by doing your best.
Unfortunately, others mistook delusion of confidence for self-assurance. There are those who wind up living in an illusion of grandeur - materially and skills-wise. But the thing is, if you are fully aware of your strengths and weaknesses, you can avoid committing these mistakes.
Self awareness may begin with acknowledging what you can and cannot do and embracing both your assets and liabilities. Recognizing your failures and successes is an important factor to become 100% sure of your authentic self. If people live with the wrong notion that they’re perfect, they would eventually end up losers in real life.
A well-examined life is the key to becoming self aware, and we can only become fully aware if our mind, body, and spirit are in sync. In other words, if we are self conscious.
We must never expect people to fully know or understand us if we don’t even fully know or understand ourselves. We cannot expect others to love us, if we don’t give ourselves the right amount of love that it deserves.
(Written sometime in June.)