Let’s say a prayer for those gravely affected by the weather that we’re experiencing at this very moment.
Let’s say a prayer for those gravely affected by the weather that we’re experiencing at this very moment.
"We get the love we think we deserve." This line came from the book/movie The Perks of Being a Wallflower. I couldn’t agree more with this. For one, I’ve always been a firm believer that we get what we deserve in life. We draw the paths that get us to where we are. We create actions and visions that help us achieve what we want in life. As cliche as this may sound, we are the captain of our own ship. And this applies to love, respect, and trust as well. Respect begets respect. Trust must be done mutually. As to love, it will also be reciprocated, as long it’s given sincerely and whole-heartedly.
We all know that life will never be all rosy and smooth sailing. As we travel along the paths that we choose to take, we will meet different kinds of people. There will be an inspiring lot that will motivate us to become better version of ourselves. On the downside, we will meet people who will challenge us negatively. These people will shake the self-assurance that we have. Some will even go in a different kind of low and try to step on us, belittle us, and attack us on whatever way imaginable.
Life as such is but normal. Meeting these people - both those who become our friends and foes - come into our lives for a reason. We are then expected to make the most out of these experiences.
There is no disguise on the purpose of meeting a great support system in the form of our friends. Are we to question why we become friends with our friends? And what will become of us if we become friends with our friends?
Yet various questions prevail when meet the foes, when the “challenging” people come into the picture. What do we make of the situation where we encounter these people? How should these people affect our lives? What’s the purpose of knowing these people?
I always consider my foes or people I’m not particularly fond of as people who help boost my self-assurance and authenticity. The more that people try to belittle me or step on my toe, the more I become self-secure. I guess that’s the importance of loving yourself and of being sure of your capabilities, no one can bring you down no matter how hard they try.
At the end of the day, it’s knowing that you’re doing the right thing and knowing that you never shortchanged anyone by becoming your true self and by doing your best.
Unfortunately, others mistook delusion of confidence for self-assurance. There are those who wind up living in an illusion of grandeur - materially and skills-wise. But the thing is, if you are fully aware of your strengths and weaknesses, you can avoid committing these mistakes.
Self awareness may begin with acknowledging what you can and cannot do and embracing both your assets and liabilities. Recognizing your failures and successes is an important factor to become 100% sure of your authentic self. If people live with the wrong notion that they’re perfect, they would eventually end up losers in real life.
A well-examined life is the key to becoming self aware, and we can only become fully aware if our mind, body, and spirit are in sync. In other words, if we are self conscious.
We must never expect people to fully know or understand us if we don’t even fully know or understand ourselves. We cannot expect others to love us, if we don’t give ourselves the right amount of love that it deserves.
(Written sometime in June.)
The seventh month of the year is slowly coming to a close. With the end of yet another 30 days in our lives, some of us may like to ponder the things that happened during this month, and also, what didn’t.
This month, I made an abrupt move when it comes to my professional life. One year and 11 months later, I left my job on the 3rd of July because I had to. Unfortunately, the company I was working for had to fold-up their Asia office and we were all subjected to termination. The whole ordeal was bittersweet especially because months back, I’ve declared my “love” for the job and at the back of my mind, I’ve no plans of being unemployed. The idea of going on a job hunting extravaganza for the nth time doesn’t seem appealing at this stage of my life.
But life has its way of making us feel alive. Who would’ve thought that one year and 11 months later, I would find myself updating my resume and hard-selling my core competencies to companies, which I would really to be part of, or which I only applied to due to that green mark in Jobstreet that says “Matches your expected salary?”
Although I don’t have any “regrets” about being retrenched, simply because I know that I’ve made the most out of my (almost) two years of tenure in the company, I’m still human and the thought of unemployment had become stressful at some point.
But just like the old times, I tried my best to not feel jaded. Yes, I’ve had my “I don’t want to work anymore” moments. I also thought of just putting up my own business, or of becoming a full-time freelancer, of becoming my own boss. However, the better part of me remained positive that something will happen soon, and so it did.
About three weeks ago, I was informed by a company consultant about their intention of hiring me.
It took a while before it sank in. Oh yea, I’m beginning yet another chapter in my professional life. In fact, it took me a while before I made my decision on this, which became possible because the job offer took weeks to reach me.
But this is it. One week from now, I’ll be meeting and working with new people again. I will be working in an industry that I’ve never been involved in before. Everything will feel brand new. The thought of the newness of things make me anxious, but just the same, it makes me all the more excited. More than the idea of earning on a regular basis again, I was sold to this job due to the job description. It’s a promising post, opened up to suit my experiences, and I couldn’t wait to just do it. Perhaps, this is me being over-optimistic. I know that this new job will require determination, passion, and time - a lot of it. However, I’ve always been ready for challenges, like I always say.
As I get older, I try to think that my value as a person only becomes greater if I set bigger goals and achieve things that are relevant. This is the state of mind that I’d like to keep while I adjust to the new job and perhaps while I continue to learn about the industry and to be good at what I do.
This new beginning may not be as welcomed as some other beginnings that I’ve had in the past because it came about due to the end of something that I didn’t intend or want or hope to end, but that’s life. Just like the line in my 6th Grade graduation speech, which I picked up from a song, “Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.” A chapter of my professional life had ended unexpectedly, which was a sad moment. But weeks after, here I am again feeling thankful, nervous, enthusiastic, and hopeful for a new start. :-)
(Dress - Random OL shop; Coat - Bayo; Boots - Dr. Martens; Lipstick - Russian Red)
A month ago I realized that I’m not free from what they call “Blogger Problems.” In fact, the “problem” that I have is more complicated than what other bloggers experience. Okay, perhaps, that is just from my point of view. However, this one doesn’t involve the lack of good background or proper lighting. I also don’t mind not having a regular photographer, which other bloggers consider their primary problem, because “regular blogging” hasn’t been my style. (Yea, what an excuse for the lack of consistent updates.)
My blogger problem involves…
My adorable kids. :)
Whenever these two are awake during the time that I take my outfit shots, the process becomes a whole lot challenging. Why? Simple, they want to be in the photos, especially my youngest, Avery (girl on the right).
For sure, regular blog readers have seen a few posts wherein I include at least one outfit shot with either or both of my kids. In reality, there are more than one photo that include them. It takes a lot of cropping to make the outfit shots suitable for my blog. However, as luck would have it, there are photos that cannot be cropped.
This photo is pretty much the best example of an outfit shot with “photobombers” that cannot be cropped. Haha.
Just to give you an idea of how the “crop” option saves my outfit photos, or well at least the ones that really can be saved, here’s a photo that you would usually see in my blog.
This is the original photo. See the head of the “photobomber” there, huh? When the first photo of this set was taken, I asked them to sit on the couch, and when my mom’s about to take my “solo” photo, Avery came running. The result, the back of her head blocking my foot. Nice timing kiddo - not! :P
The “after” photo.
The “before” photo.
Now you know why some of the photos in this blog lack the proper “balance” or focus. Sometimes, I need to crop a great portion of my photos, not only because of my kids, but due to other reasons like messy parts in the background and the like.
After several attempts of trying to convince my kids that they’ll have their turn to be in-front of the camera after I take my outfit shots, I gave up.
Not completely though cause my mom was able to sneak this last photo just before all hopes were completely gone.
To make it clear, I’m not complaining about having kids. Just to stir clear from any kind of misunderstanding about this blog entry, I’m just sharing the “Blogger Problem” that I often encounter. Perhaps, a lot of mommy style bloggers out there can relate to this.
However, this problem pales in comparison with the other problem that I have, which is my lack of motivation to blog regularly. I look at my archives and miss the commitment that I use to devote for this blog; no matter how mundane my outfits are or the ideas that I share here. I miss blogging every week (at least 2-3 times per week). I miss spending a part of my mornings to update this blog. I miss the perks that I get out of showcasing my personal style, ideas, and write-ups.
Okay, all these “I MISS” aside, let’s move over to the outfit. I’ve had this dress since January, but only debuted it now here because I always fail to take photos whenever I’m wearing it. This time, I wore it to my sister’s birthday dinner last May.
With this kind of dress, one’s not compelled to excessorize. My earrings and bangle did the job. I also decided to go monochromatic to keep the classy vibe.
Dress - Topshop
Shoes - AsianVogue shop
Earrings - Forever 21
Bangle - Gold Dot
Hope you guys enjoyed reading this post, as much I did creating this one. :) ‘Til next!